Fareham couple say other grieving parents should seek help from charity

DEVASTATED Lizzy Foley , 36, and her husband Richard Foley, 41, from Fareham, lost their daughter Jessica, who was stillborn. The couple are now raising awareness for Sands (Stillborn and Neonatal Death Society).  Picture: Sarah Standing (121805-4394)
DEVASTATED Lizzy Foley , 36, and her husband Richard Foley, 41, from Fareham, lost their daughter Jessica, who was stillborn. The couple are now raising awareness for Sands (Stillborn and Neonatal Death Society). Picture: Sarah Standing (121805-4394)
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WHEN Lizzy Foley found out that she was pregnant she was thrilled and began to prepare for her child’s imminent arrival.

But her world came crashing down in April last year when daughter, Jessica, was stillborn.

Now, Lizzy is hoping to raise awareness for the charity SANDS (Stillborn and Neonatal Death Society) which helps support parents who have lost babies.

Lizzy, 36, and husband Richard, 41, from Laburnum Road in Fareham, had been trying for a baby for a number of years and so they were overjoyed when they fell pregnant.

‘I was over the moon,’ said Lizzy.

‘We have been together nearly 10 years. We wanted to wait until we were married before we started having children. We were about to go down the IVF route when I fell pregnant.

‘We were just so excited.’

But Lizzy lost Jessica at 39 weeks after suffering a placenta abruption and a strep B infection on April 7 last year.

‘It was horrible,’ said Lizzy.

‘I was absolutely devastated. I was completely heartbroken.’

And at the end of last year, Lizzy sadly suffered a miscarriage around two months into a second pregnancy.

Now, Lizzy and Richard attend monthly meetings through SANDS.

‘If we didn’t have the support from the charity I don’t know where we would be,’ Lizzy added.

‘At least I know there are other people out there who understand exactly how you feel, in different circumstances of losing children.

‘I think it’s amazing what they do.

‘I want people to be aware of the charity and the work that they do.’

Richard added: ‘Everyone is sitting there and has been through the same experience. I’m one of these people who doesn’t open up to strangers, but this changed me.

‘It’s probably the worst experience you can go through – to have a newborn that’s gone. It’s a cruel world.’

The couple have vowed to keep trying for a child though, in the hope that they will fall pregnant again.

Richard added: ‘It’s never going to be forgotten. We need a direction and that direction is trying to have a child.’

To find out more about the charity, please visit uk-sands.org.