KNOWING he was nearing the end of his life, Vincent Lodge had just one wish – to spend his last days at home.
But as the 55-year-old was suffering from advanced bowel cancer and needed expert medical attention, this was not possible.
His daughters Alison and Julia were left devastated he couldn’t die in the place he wanted to.
Now the sisters are urging people to dig deep to help make the Rowans Hospice’s Dorothy’s Dream campaign a reality and provide a service to support people to die in their own homes.
Julia, 22, of Lumsden Road, Eastney, said: ‘Dad wanted to die at home but because he needed medical care we just couldn’t look after him on our own.
‘It wasn’t just basic care he needed. If we could have cared for him at home we would have.
‘It’s upsetting thinking he didn’t die at home where he wanted to.
‘If the Dorothy’s Dream service had been in place we could have though.’
Mr Lodge was diagnosed with bowel cancer in April last year.
He started receiving care and support from The Rowans and used the hospice’s day centre.
When his condition worsened, he had to go into hospital for a week. But, desperate not to die in hospital, he was then transferred to the hospice where he died on February 10.
Alison, 28, of Manor Road, Fratton, said: ‘The care at the Rowans was amazing, you couldn’t fault it. They supported dad and us and we could stay there with him so at least he wasn’t on his own. As he couldn’t die at home, the hospice was the next best place.
‘But we wish he could have been at home and that’s why we want to promote the Dorothy’s Dream appeal. We would have used it and it could help so many people. It will be amazing.’
More than 150 people attended Mr Lodge’s funeral on February 25 and donated money to the Dorothy’s Dream appeal. Alison and Julia are now planning to fundraise for the campaign.
If you would like to make a donation to the appeal call (023) 9223 8531 or visit rowanshospice.co.uk