It’s time for change – but no need to stress out

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Alongside more money, the desire for a better body is one of the most sought-after things in the world.

I can guarantee that, at some point in your life, and to a varying degree, every person in the western world has stressed about, thought about or at least expressed the wish to have a better body.

Obviously some people just aren’t willing to take the steps but they will have at least hoped to have lower body fat, more muscle or just more energy.

But, in a confusing world, where on earth do you make a start?

Unfortunately, complexity is a money maker.

If you can make fat loss seem like a complex problem with a secret answer only you have, you stand to make more money than if you tell the truth.

It’s pretty simple, when you take the right steps consistently enough.

Now I’m a big believer in giving people every weapon I have to change their mind and body and encourage them to change everything as soon as possible.

But the reality is that because of past conditioning and mental chains, this can be very difficult for some people.

Trying to change everything can be too much of a shock and they end up doing nothing at all, fearing that because they struggle with 10 per cent of the advice they should just pack it in.

So I looked at the key things I recommend to the people I work with and have tried to put them in some kind of an ordered hierarchy of importance.

The danger of course is that you’ll see some things as unimportant.

The truth is that if you want to feel your best, you need to do all this stuff.

But don’t worry – if you take time to replace current destructive habits one at a time, it won’t take up any more time in your life.

It’s really just a case of out with the old and in with the new.

For example, 10 minutes criticising yourself in the mirror can be replaced by 10 minutes repeating positive mantras to yourself!

It’s about not wasting valuable time on negative and harmful thoughts.

So if you’re very busy and stressed out and want to make changes but don’t have time to sit and figure everything out all at once, here’s the order I suggest you do things in.

Look out for the next couple of instalments for the full list.

I’m keeping them brief for ease of reading (entire books have been written on each topic).

Know where you’re at right now and stop denying that you may in fact have been led by society and marketing to make monumental errors with your health.

People need to be aware

of exactly where they store their body fat (not just their scale weight), where this

puts them on the health and fitness scale and likely risk of heart disease, stroke and diabetes based on their fat profile.

As a brief guide:

Excess belly fat is usually due to adrenal stress/levels of a cortisol (a stress hormone)

Excess hip and thigh fat (and moobs in men) is due to excess oestrogen.

High levels of fat all over are usually down to metabolic issues in particular the thyroid.

An okay body with a pot belly is usually due to liver issues.

Once you know where you’re at, you can focus on what needs most attention and will make it all more real instead of the stories and justifications we make in our heads!

Don’t just compare yourself to societal norms because nowadays, normal is sick, tired and fat!

In the next two articles I will be giving you more tools to help you so look out next Tuesday and let me know how you are getting on.

You can contact me with your thoughts and experiences at

Nikki Caputa is a health and fitness coach who works one-to-one with clients and runs her own fitness camps where she trains groups. Known as FAB Body Bootcamps, two are based in Fareham and one is in Portsmouth. Nikki is also an ambassador for Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution.

Visit and Follow Nikki on Twitter @nikkifitmum1.