Little white lies are all part of parenting

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Let’s be honest, most parents tell their children little white lies every now and then. Any person who says they don’t is probably stretching the truth a bit.

When I was a boy, I was often told the odd porky, such as the time my mum told me if the wind changed while I was pulling funny faces, I would stay looking like that forever.

I’m ashamed to say that I seem to have inherited the art of fibbing because the odd whopper has come out of my mouth when talking to my children.

I’ve said things like ‘KFC is closed’ when we’re driving past and the smell of the Colonel’s tasty chicken is wafting into the car and up our noses.

Another example is when I say ‘that’s a brilliant picture’ when I actually don’t know quite what I’m looking at, apart from a massive mess of colours.

To make myself feel better about it, my excuse is that a white lie is usually used for the greater good and is harmless in the long term.

According to a recent article that I read, there is a bigger lie that some of us apparently tell our children – the lie that we don’t have a favourite child.

This study says that parents who have more than one child can have a preference for one of them and enjoy their company more than the other.

I have to admit that I was worried about this when my partner Serena was pregnant with our second daughter Alyssa.

Having only seen her ultrasound photos, I wondered how it would be possible to love our new child as much as her big sister Caitlin, who I’d fallen in love with the second she was born.

The worry was that although she would be special to me, she would never be as special as our first-born.

Of course, my worries were unfounded because as soon as Alyssa arrived into the world, instantly I had that same overwhelming feeling of love that I experienced with her older sister.

I can honestly say that I do not have a favourite child or feel more love for one of them than the other.

There have been concerns that Alyssa might sometimes live in Caitlin’s shadow, for example, seeing her elder sister doing activities that she is not yet capable of doing.

Of course, there are advantages to being the second born.

Alyssa will always be the baby of the family and can learn from her big sister’s mistakes.

And at school, with any problems that arise, she’ll always have Caitlin there to look after her.

And, of course, when Alyssa starts to get interested in fashion, music and makeup, she can always pop into her big sister’s bedroom to do some ‘borrowing’.

That’s when sisterly love will really be put to the test.