Sex talk at work makes me squirm '“ Fiona Caine gives relationship advice


Monday, 8th October 2018, 1:53 pm
Updated Tuesday, 9th October 2018, 7:30 am
Fiona Caine gives advice to a woman who's colleague over-shares about her sex life

Q. I've just started a new job and work in a smallish office with five other people.

The work and most of my colleagues are great, but one woman has latched onto me and won't stop talking about her sex life.

I've tried ignoring her, but she just carries on. I've even got up and left the office only for her to follow me down the corridor, still talking.

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I want to make a real go of this job and don't want to create a fuss so soon after starting. However, I'm not sure I can cope with this woman for much longer. 

A. She's ignored hints that you don't want to listen, so you probably need to be a bit more direct to get the message through to her. There's no need for this to be confrontational, simply and calmly explain that you'd rather not hear about her sex life.

This should stop it but if not, have a chat with your other colleagues and see how they deal with it. If they too are finding it difficult, enlist their help and approach this woman as a group.

Q. I'm going on holiday with my boyfriend for the first time in a few weeks. I am really looking forward to it, but I am also worried too because he has never seen me without make-up. 

I have a small but ugly scar on the side of my face where I had a mole removed a couple of years ago. 

I know this seems like a silly thing to fret about, but we are very much in love and I don't want to risk spoiling the holiday or turn him off me.

A. It's not silly to be concerned, but I think you might be worrying a bit too much.

If this man loves you, I am sure he won't mind in the least seeing you in the morning without your make-up.

Indeed, many men (mine included) prefer women with little or no make-up. Nor will he be bothered about a small scar.

If you're still concerned though, why not get him used to seeing you with little or no make-up before you go? That way you can relax and enjoy your holiday.