Mum comes up with way to explain child loss in pregnancy

Joanna Fox with her family Freddie, four, Ellie, two and husband Dan Picture: Habibur Rahman
Joanna Fox with her family Freddie, four, Ellie, two and husband Dan Picture: Habibur Rahman
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A WOMAN who lost her child during pregnancy is creating a way for young people to come to terms with losing loved ones.

Jo Fox lost her son, Alfie, 34 weeks into her pregnancy – but found it difficult to explain to her children what had happened.

Joanna Fox with the cover design of her book on her laptop.
Picture: Habibur Rahman

Joanna Fox with the cover design of her book on her laptop. Picture: Habibur Rahman

It was at this point that Jo, from Gosport, decided to create a way for youngsters to understand what pregnancy loss is, and is hoping to make it a less taboo subject – so that parents can open up about their experiences.

The 25-year-old said: ‘In July I lost my little boy during pregnancy, which was a really tough time.

‘But I found that the hardest part was working out how to approach the situation in regards to my two young children, Freddie and Ellie.

‘I realised that there is nothing out there to help explain it to them.’

It was at this point that Jo, who is currently studying at Southampton Solent University, came up with a plan on how to tell them.

She said: ‘We came up with the idea that Alfie is up playing in the sky, and as a family we released three balloons with messages for him – we then told the children that when Alfie got their balloons he would send a teddy to say thank you.

‘We had left teddy bears on their beds for when they got home.’

Jo is now releasing a book for parents called Playground in the Sky, which she hopes will stop other women from having to go through a similar ordeal.

‘There has to be so many parents out there with young children that it makes sense to do this,’ she said.

‘The plan is to get the book into hospitals and bereavement services – I just want to help out the other mums so that nobody has to be in this situation again.

‘Hopefully after a while this will expand into a series of books that cover other losses too, from grandparents to family pets.’

The book will be launched early in 2018, with Jo following up the launch with the creation of a charity called Alfie’s Angels, which will form a hub for parents in the Fareham and Gosport area.