My husband walked out on me during the lockdown | Agony Aunt

Question: When my husband and I were in lockdown together, things fell apart and he left me. I’m devastated.

I can’t go back to my family as my mum’s recovering from cancer treatment. Although my mum and dad keep suggesting I go around to see them, how can I put my mum at risk?

I’m working from home and the only people I see are on Zoom. Even if I could get out and about, it’s the last thing I feel like doing right now.

Will I ever get over this?

Answer: Unfortunately, a great many relationships have suffered during this time – you are certainly not alone in being left by a partner, sadly.You’re feeling rejected and hurt, but you will get over this – just like we will eventually get through this virus. I suggest you contact

Relate (relate.org.uk), where you can get some counselling. If you were to isolate yourself completely for two weeks, could you not move in with your parents after that?

That way, you wouldn’t be risking your mother’s health.

SHALL I PERSUADE MY SISTER TO STAY WITH HER CHEATING HUSBAND?

Question: My sister recently came home to find her husband in bed with another woman.She is determined to get a divorce and has already spoken to a solicitor, but I’m concerned that she is rushing things a bit.He sounds genuinely sorry and has also promised that he will never do it again.When my husband had his affair, 15 years ago, we almost divorced too.It took hard work, but we were able to put it behind us and are now really happy together. Should I try and stop her?

Answer: Finding your husband in your bed with someone isn’t the same, emotionally, as finding out he’s had an affair.

It’s vital that, whether she stays or leaves, she reaches her own decision – the one that feels right for her – not one that is based on your experiences.

Encourage your sister to talk to a Relate counsellor (relate.org.uk), where she will be able to speak to someone who is genuinely impartial.